Ahhh, time away from the kids! What a great time to catch up on that pile of laundry, or go to Costco and think through carefully what you are buying and how much you are spending. Or better yet, just sit and make your grocery list and go through your coupons uninterrupted.
Except NONE of that qualifies as a legitimate Mommy Time-Out!
A Mommy Time-Out is exactly that – time out from all the household-related chores: shopping, doctor appointments, cleaning, laundry, dusting, and so on. Your test measurement? If it isn’t selfish, it doesn’t count. That’s right, I said ‘selfish’. As moms, that’s a curse word far worse than any sailor could ever say, but it’s necessary if you are going to have an effective Mommy Time-Out.
Think back to those things you loved to do before you became a mom and set your sights on doing them. Take yourself to a movie and buy a large butter popcorn and drink; go to a concert; listen to live music at a local bar. Take a two hour nap.
And they don’t happen just once, or in a vacuum. It’s a goal to have a Mommy Time-Out at least once a week. That may seem like a lot to you right now, so ease into it. Start with once a month, then twice a month, and so on. It takes several consistent Time-Outs to notice a difference in your demeanor, patience, and overall sanity.
A true Mommy Time-Out has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the household. You will always have household errands and chores, so leave them until tomorrow. Today, just take care of yourself.