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As the “go-to” woman with your family, friends, work place and PTO to name a few, it seems as though not a moment goes by that someone isn’t tugging on your shirt asking you if you could spare some time for them. Since you are Super Mom, you say “Okay” more times than you say “No”, and before you know it you have given away all of your time until you have none left for yourself.
So the mere suggestion of adding to that crazy schedule by blocking out some time for yourself can seem overwhelming – you can’t spare the time!
However, we are happy to tell you that there are some very simple things you can do to open up time on your calendar. Not only will you have more opportunities to take consistent Time-Outs, but by lightening your load you will feel less stressed and overwhelmed.
1. “No” is your Friend and by saying it more often, your stress level decreases and your free time increases. So begin saying “No” more often. Stop trying to be everything to everyone all the time. When you limit your commitments, time will suddenly appear on your calendar that you never realized you had.
For example, don’t volunteer to host or co-host every friend’s party, neighborhood BBQ, or holiday family gathering. The party may not be as fabulous as if you had planned it, but chances are good you will enjoy it more because you are the guest and not the host for the umpteenth time.
2. Delegating your chores to your children and spouse is another way to start seeing daylight in your schedule. Of course, the laundry won’t get folded just right and the dinner may not be as gourmet as if you did it (or maybe it will be!), but it will get done. There is an added benefit to this as well, and that is the fact that you are teaching your children invaluable life skills. So delegate, delegate!
3. Playdates & Parties are the perfect opportunity to sneak in a Mommy Time-Out. Don’t feel you have to stay for every play date, birthday party and family visit your child goes to.
If your children are old enough and you know and trust the other parents, ask if you could do a drop off/pick up for this party or play date and you will chaperone the next. Chances are real good the other parents will take you up on the offer.
Play dates and parties not on your schedule? How about a couple of hours to visit with grandma or auntie? What a great opportunity to bond with other family members. It’s only two hours out of a week, and again, the benefits you and your children gain far outweigh the alternative.
Opening up time in your schedule is not impossible. You just need to remember that you have more control over your schedule than you think.
When you start doing these little things to free up your schedule, you will be amazed at how much more time you will have for a much needed and well deserved Mommy Time-Out!