You should know from the onset that while Colleen and I have learned the value of taking a Mommy Time-Out, we are not above falling in to old habits and routines. Case in point:
I recently noticed that I have been on edge with my coworkers, friends and love ones. I asked myself, “where is this coming from? Is it that time of the month or am I just too busy taking care of others and not me? Have I once again become the mother that says ‘yes’ to everyone and wants her children to be in extra activities because she’s afraid they will lose out?” Well, yes, I have. I fell back into thinking my children have to attend every birthday party and, of course, I have to be at every church function and attend parties with my friends as well as immediate family.
It got to the point that my mind became so fogged that I could barely remember what I did last week. And if you asked me what I’ve been doing to so occupy myself, my honest answer would be “I don’t know.” It was all just ‘stuff’ that in the end just used up my time, wore me our mentally and physically, and turned me into an irritable…woman.
At least I knew enough to see all the classic signs of being overwhelmed and Mommy Time-Out deficient.
As soon as I realized I needed to take care of myself before I had a nervous breakdown, I went on a break at work and put myself in a mental Time-Out. I meditated for 20 minutes, and in so doing I inspired myself to stop leaving myself out of the equation. I needed to fill that void of having my Mommy Time-Out and do something I wanted to do for myself and not what others were expecting of me.
I then called my sister and asked her to meet me at the local nail shop for a mani/pedi. Little did I know that she was also in need of her MTO. We had a great time, laughing and talking about how we want to do it all without any help because nobody will do it as good as we will. Of course, we think this is a very silly way of thinking because not only have we not given our families the opportunity to help around the house, we were robbing ourselves of some great MTO times. Needless to say, we left there fixed on getting back to our Mommy Time-Out agenda!
What inspires your MTOs?