Confessions of a Mommy Time-Out Advocate

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I didn’t take my Mommy Time-Out last week.  Coming from someone whose life is being spent advocating other moms to be sure to take regular, weekly MTOs, some would call me a hypocrite.  I’ll just call myself human and leave it at that.

Sometimes life has other plans, and so do the people around you that you depend on to watch your kids so you can take a good MTO.  That’s what happened to me last week.  My husband had a project at work that took more of his time than usual, my mother was out of state, and my friends were all busy planning their children’s birthday parties, fighting colds and fevers, or all of the above.

As for me, quite frankly, I forgot.  The week literally got away from me.  One day I wake up and it’s Monday, and before I know it, it’s the end of the week and I’m writing this article confessing to my MTO miss.  It seemed every second of every day last week was filled with something pressing: deadlines, interviews, Girl Scout meeting, classes for my two youngest…

These aren’t excuses, just a reality all us moms live through.  Sometimes we just can’t make it happen.

However, something amazing happened last week as well.  I wasn’t stressed.  I look back and I can’t think of a single time that I went ballistic on my kids, my husband or anyone else.  I used to, when I didn’t get my regular MTOs, but last week that didn’t happen.  Last week, if I didn’t know any better, I’d say I had my MTO after all.

After some thought, I figured it all out.  It was all my regular MTOs up to that point.  It was like I had built up a reserve of patience, calm and balance every week prior when I did have a Mommy Time-Out.

My plan is to be back on track next week.  My mom is back in town and jonesin’ to see her grandchildren and I intend to take full advantage of that fact!  Everyone wins, because my girls have missed their Oma, she needs her fix, and I need my MTO.

I know that in the future, if I miss an MTO once in a while, I will be okay, as long as I have as many consistent MTOs in between.  It’s empowering to see the Mommy Time-Out concept at work and working.

From personal experience I can tell you that regular MTOs really do work – in so many ways.   So make a commitment to yourself to make sure they happen often and regularly, and see the benefits in your life!


Love Your Friends

My dear friend Nora and I at our latest Mommy Time-Out

Over the years, I have come to realize that my girlfriends are the people I need greatly in my life because they keep me sane and they remain a constant when not much else does. I am able to talk to them about anything, they do not judge me and are very sympathetic to my feelings and struggles. And I give back to them the same way.  True friends will stick close to you no matter how deep in despair or how high in life you are.  They will celebrate with you in times of happiness and cry with you in times of sorrow.

I recently found out that my best friend, a single mother with a nine year old daughter, was diagnosed  with breast cancer.  My heart was broken and in disbelief.  It hit me how cancer does not discriminate from ethnicity, age or financial status. What is amazing about her is that she continues to give and listen to me no matter how depressed or sick she gets from her chemo treatments.  She is an amazing woman and selfless for giving me so much love and compassion.

Without our girlfriends life would not be the same. So this month, love your friends and let them know how much you appreciate them with all your heart.  For your Mommy Time-Out, meet them for lunch, have coffee or just phone them and tell them you love them and think of them often even though you don’t call them as much as you should.

They will feel loved, and because they are a big part of keeping you mentally, spiritually and physically balanced so you can be more available to your family…  Well, needless to say, you will both benefit greatly!

What do you like to do with your friends on your MTO’s?