The Scariest MTO

You know you've felt this way when you don't get your MTO in! Image courtesy of Victor Habbick at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

You know you’ve felt this way when you don’t get your MTO in!
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is no MTO at all!

So now that you have your children ready to go trick-or-treating, costumes and all, have you thought how you are going to take care of yourself this week?

I am planning on having my Mommy Time-Out with my friends by going to a “no kids allowed” Halloween party. To get ready for it, I am going to get my nails done with my stepdaughter, getting colors to match the long, gorgeous dress I bought for myself, as well as a cute ghost or spider to be in the spirit of Halloween.   I am really looking forward to having a wonderful and in depth conversation with my daughter to hear what’s going on in her life and see how things are going for her.

I can’t wait to go to the Halloween party with my friends. It’s been forever since I’ve been to a party with an adult crowd! I will be able to relax and have fun, enjoying some adult conversations about current affairs, the hottest fashions, and the latest movie releases. I am also looking forward to eating good food, having a glass or two of wine, and enjoying the delicious treats that are going to be served!

So before you become the live version of a Halloween nightmare, calendar yourself into your busy Halloween week and make a conscious effort to take care of yourself this week!

Your MTO and YOU

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Image courtesy of Michelle Meiklejohn at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

One of the biggest things I get out of my Mommy Time-Outs next to having some stress-free down time, is the opportunity to get back in touch with the woman I was before I became a mom.  What I’ve noticed, however, is that it doesn’t happen quickly, much less automatically.  I kinda have to work at it, at least right now.  I have literally forgotten some of the things I used to enjoy doing, and the things I do remember, I have forgotten how.

Case in point, I used to write fictional short stories in my notebooks every night before bedtime. It wasn’t meant for anyone else but me, I just loved doing it.  With three kids, that’s a lot harder to do, mostly because I just pass out at bedtime, with no energy much less creativity, to spare.

Yet on my Mommy Time-Outs, I am starting to get the hang of just relaxing (vs. worrying or feeling guilty about my kids) and doing certain mental exercises to reconnect with my creative side.

Now, instead of writing for myself and by myself, I am working on a fictional book with my husband, and I have dedicated my MTOs to working on the chapters.  I am very excited about this, because it is what I used to do way back when, before kids, marriage and all that goes with it.  Except this time, it is with my husband, and I love that.

 

So many wonderful things come out of having consistent MTO’s.  What about you? Have you promised yourself to do a certain something on most of your MTOs to get back in touch with your old self?  If not, what long-term plans do you have for your MTOs, if any?  We would love to hear from you!

A No Brainer Mommy Time-Out

Closing yourself down for a day is an amazing MTO

Closing yourself down for a day is an amazing MTO!

Today was by far one of my best MTOs I have had in a long time. I started my day by having a good meditation and prayer. I woke up my two daughters, fed them and took them to school.

After I dropped them off, I went for a two-mile walk. The weather was perfect – not too hot and not too cold. I came home and had a cup of coffee and did nothing but allow my mind to rest.

It was so nice to sit in silence, without any distractions at all. I felt so relaxed and rested not having to worry about the next thing on my to-do list.

I then called one of my good friends and we talked for an hour or so. She was having a difficult time in her life and she was able to express all that she was feeling. She was so thankful I was there to listen to her and that she was able to get it all out in the open.  I realized when I hung up with her that so many times in my life I get so busy and just assume that all my friends are doing well because I don’t hear from them. I was so glad I was able to give my friend the support and love she needed.

By now it was noon.  Instead of having a good nutritious lunch, I had hot Cheetos, a turkey sandwich, a diet coke and some chocolate. I usually don’t eat like this, but I just felt like being bad and I wanted to enjoy the junk food and not worry about my kids trying to taste my food or take it from me.

I then took a nap for an hour. After I woke up, I decided I was not going to shower until I picked up the girls from school. I paid a few bills and returned some business calls and then it was time to pick them up.

I have to say the whole day felt like a MTO (versus just a couple of hours) because I did as I pleased, when I pleased. As a result, I came to realize that I could choose and control how busy my days are by the mood I am in.

I was also reminded of the positive people and things I want to surround my children and myself with. I refuse to feel overwhelmed and tired all the time because I am constantly going, trying to be super mom and help everyone along the way.  My MTO was awesome because I allowed myself to feed my soul, my mind and my body. I will make an effort to have one of these days at least once a month.

I encourage you to take a “No-Brainer MTO” this week and please, let me know how it goes!

Back To School Mommy Time-Outs!

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The new school year is here!  In the next couple of weeks (depending on where you live) some if not all of our children will be returning to school!

Whether all or just one of our children are headed to school, it will now be a little bit easier for us to take some regular Mommy Time-Outs.  At the very least, it is one less child to have someone to babysit and entertain.  At the most, more free days to have some time for ourselves!  Hooray!

No doubt we have all spent the last few weeks planning for school – buying school supplies, clothes, learning new schedules and bus routes.  There’s just one more thing we need to do.  Plan our regular Mommy Time-Outs!  We can’t forget ourselves in all of this preparation.

For me, I am asking my mom if she can commit at least 2 days per week to come over and watch my two youngest who are not in school yet.  One day I will spend running errands, making calls, working on my business, and the other?  You guessed it!  Mommy Time-Out!

We should emphasize, too, that consistency is key.  Everyone is on a regular schedule, so why shouldn’t our Mommy Time-Outs?  The more MTOs we have, especially regular weekly ones (at least), the more often our kids will come home from school to a more relaxed mommy who is able to give her undivided and very patient attention!

What are your plans this school year for your regular Mommy Time-Outs?  We’d love to hear your ideas!!

The Fall & Rise of the MTO

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You should know from the onset that while Colleen and I have learned the value of taking a Mommy Time-Out, we are not above falling in to old habits and routines.  Case in point:

I recently noticed that I have been on edge with my coworkers, friends and love ones.  I asked myself, “where is this coming from?  Is it that time of the month or am I just too busy taking care of others and not me?  Have I once again become the mother that says ‘yes’ to everyone and wants her children to be in extra activities because she’s afraid they will lose out?”  Well, yes, I have.  I fell back into thinking my children have to attend every birthday party and, of course, I have to be at every church function and attend parties with my friends as well as immediate family.

It got to the point that my mind became so fogged that I could barely remember what I did last week.  And if you asked me what I’ve been doing to so occupy myself, my honest answer would be “I don’t know.”  It was all just ‘stuff’ that in the end just used up my time, wore me our mentally and physically, and turned me into an irritable…woman.

At least I knew enough to see all the classic signs of being overwhelmed and Mommy Time-Out deficient.

As soon as I realized I needed to take care of myself before I had a nervous breakdown, I went on a break at work and put myself in a mental Time-Out.  I meditated for 20 minutes, and in so doing I inspired myself to stop leaving myself out of the equation. I needed to fill that void of having my Mommy Time-Out and do something I wanted to do for myself and not what others were expecting of me.

I then called my sister and asked her to meet me at the local nail shop for a mani/pedi.  Little did I know that she was also in need of her MTO.  We had a great time, laughing and talking about  how we want to do it all without any help because nobody will do it as good as we will.  Of course, we think this is a very silly way of thinking because not only have we not given our families the opportunity to help around the house, we were robbing ourselves of some great MTO times.  Needless to say, we left there fixed on getting back to our Mommy Time-Out agenda!

What inspires your MTOs?