Guilt-Free Mommy

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Find peace with your Mommy Time-Out

There’s guilt-free ice cream, guilt-free desserts, even guilt-free McDonald’s french fries (okay, maybe not that last one, but a woman can dream!), but is there such a thing as a guilt-free mom?

Always second-guessing a discipline choice, a school, or the amount of TV watched.  When the child is away, there’s guilt he or she isn’t home.  When the child is at home, there’s guilt he or she isn’t somewhere else doing something more interesting.

Add to all this guilt the suggestion that you, mom, should take a Time-Out away from your kids and do something just for you.  Is the guilt so overwhelming that the room is spinning as you read this?  Well, hang on to your seat and read on!

Imagine the guilt when you yell at your child because he or she just climbed on your last nerve.  Or the guilt when you go to bed tonight, rethinking your day and realize that you didn’t give your undivided attention to your child who was trying to share with you something so very important to him or her, simply because you were mentally exhausted and thinking about your grocery list or the dirty dishes in the sink.

Now compare that level of guilt to the guilt of taking a minimum of thirty minutes (hopefully longer) to do something for yourself that does NOT involve errands of ANY kind, while your child is having fun on a play date, having quality time with dad/grandma/family, or sound asleep in bed.

When you return from your Time-Out, you are more likely to give that focused attention, respond more calmly, even play longer with your child than if you didn’t.

I’m here to tell you that you can’t escape the guilt, but you can mitigate it.

So, which is the lesser of the two guilts for you?

Renew Your Body

Changing old habits can lead to a healthier you

Changing old habits can lead to a healthier you

Our bodies carry us through this life we have been given.  If our body is not working well, our lives in general are negatively affected.  We all have heard “you are what you eat” and I am here to tell you it is  absolutely true.  I was married for 13 years and the last 5 years of my marriage, not realizing how depressed and unhappy I was, gained a lot of weight, eating to cover up my depression.  I am 5’2 and I weighed 140 pounds.  If you ask any health professional, that is slightly obese.

I did not feel good carrying this extra weight and was tired a lot of the time.  My knees were starting to bother me and my children would say that my stomach was their pillow. Carrying all that extra weight placed me in a category of heart attack, stroke and other health issues, and I did not want to be in that category any longer!  Not to mention the fact that I want to be there to see my children get married someday and be able to meet my grandchildren. To be able to do this I needed to replace my old habits of eating with new ones.  So I finally made a conscious decision, joined Weight Watchers, and committed my weekly MTO to attend Weight Watchers’ weekly meeting.

I loved going there and learning about proper portions, not eating my children’s leftovers, and better choices in food.  In the process I made many new friends, learned self-discipline,  and was continually supported by the others there.  Every time I lost a little weight I was encouraged to continue.  I reached my goal weight in 3 months by losing 25 pounds!  At the end of it, I promised myself I would be in the best shape of my life in my 40’s.

Taking care of my body has allowed me to see that I am important and my children see me making healthy choices for myself as well as for them.  My friends and family were so encouraging and saw all the weight I had lost that I inspired them to join Weight Watchers.  So much good came out of me taking a weekly Mommy Time-Out committed solely to better my physical health.

If you are carrying extra weight and would like to lose some of it, do you have a plan? Have you thought of using your Mommy Time-Out as a time to work out with a friend, attend a weight loss class or start to build a regular exercise regime for yourself?  What challenges do you face in pursuing these goals?