A No Brainer Mommy Time-Out

Closing yourself down for a day is an amazing MTO

Closing yourself down for a day is an amazing MTO!

Today was by far one of my best MTOs I have had in a long time. I started my day by having a good meditation and prayer. I woke up my two daughters, fed them and took them to school.

After I dropped them off, I went for a two-mile walk. The weather was perfect – not too hot and not too cold. I came home and had a cup of coffee and did nothing but allow my mind to rest.

It was so nice to sit in silence, without any distractions at all. I felt so relaxed and rested not having to worry about the next thing on my to-do list.

I then called one of my good friends and we talked for an hour or so. She was having a difficult time in her life and she was able to express all that she was feeling. She was so thankful I was there to listen to her and that she was able to get it all out in the open.  I realized when I hung up with her that so many times in my life I get so busy and just assume that all my friends are doing well because I don’t hear from them. I was so glad I was able to give my friend the support and love she needed.

By now it was noon.  Instead of having a good nutritious lunch, I had hot Cheetos, a turkey sandwich, a diet coke and some chocolate. I usually don’t eat like this, but I just felt like being bad and I wanted to enjoy the junk food and not worry about my kids trying to taste my food or take it from me.

I then took a nap for an hour. After I woke up, I decided I was not going to shower until I picked up the girls from school. I paid a few bills and returned some business calls and then it was time to pick them up.

I have to say the whole day felt like a MTO (versus just a couple of hours) because I did as I pleased, when I pleased. As a result, I came to realize that I could choose and control how busy my days are by the mood I am in.

I was also reminded of the positive people and things I want to surround my children and myself with. I refuse to feel overwhelmed and tired all the time because I am constantly going, trying to be super mom and help everyone along the way.  My MTO was awesome because I allowed myself to feed my soul, my mind and my body. I will make an effort to have one of these days at least once a month.

I encourage you to take a “No-Brainer MTO” this week and please, let me know how it goes!

Love Your Friends

My dear friend Nora and I at our latest Mommy Time-Out

Over the years, I have come to realize that my girlfriends are the people I need greatly in my life because they keep me sane and they remain a constant when not much else does. I am able to talk to them about anything, they do not judge me and are very sympathetic to my feelings and struggles. And I give back to them the same way.  True friends will stick close to you no matter how deep in despair or how high in life you are.  They will celebrate with you in times of happiness and cry with you in times of sorrow.

I recently found out that my best friend, a single mother with a nine year old daughter, was diagnosed  with breast cancer.  My heart was broken and in disbelief.  It hit me how cancer does not discriminate from ethnicity, age or financial status. What is amazing about her is that she continues to give and listen to me no matter how depressed or sick she gets from her chemo treatments.  She is an amazing woman and selfless for giving me so much love and compassion.

Without our girlfriends life would not be the same. So this month, love your friends and let them know how much you appreciate them with all your heart.  For your Mommy Time-Out, meet them for lunch, have coffee or just phone them and tell them you love them and think of them often even though you don’t call them as much as you should.

They will feel loved, and because they are a big part of keeping you mentally, spiritually and physically balanced so you can be more available to your family…  Well, needless to say, you will both benefit greatly!

What do you like to do with your friends on your MTO’s?

Whose Time Is It, Anyway?

Here’s a story for you. I decided to treat myself to coffee at a Starbucks for my Mommy Time-Out the other day. I went with the mindset that I would buy my drink, find a quiet spot and read my book. Unfortunately, things did not turn out as I expected. There was a nice gentleman that talked to me the whole time, and at one point he even asked me to watch his personal belongings while he got a refill! I did, but when he returned, I politely got up and found another spot where there was peace and quiet. I was determined to take care of me and I am happy to say I did, and went home renewed.  There is nothing wrong with being politely selfish. It’s up to us to take control of our MTO and make it happen, before, after and even DURING.  Because if we don’t, who will?

We’d love to hear your MTO challenge. Were you able to overcome it?