There are ten Mommy Time-Out Guidelines we believe are essential to having an effective Mommy Time-Out, and one of them I had a hard time with this past week so I thought I’d revisit it. Here’s the guideline:
” You’re On Restriction! You are not allowed to fold laundry, clean the kitchen, go grocery shopping, go to doctor appointments, or run any errands in general – they do not count as your Mommy Time-Out! NO WORK! Or else it doesn’t count and your Time-Out has to start all over again!”
Well, I found myself this past week using my MTO to get some grocery shopping done. I enjoyed the time alone, listening to Pink Floyd in the car instead of the ABC Song, thinking about my life in general to and from the store without interruption (Pink Floyd has that effect), and being able to make it up and down the aisles without being asked a gajillion times if I could “buy this”.
However, 45-minutes later I was back home unpacking groceries and getting dinner started, and realized…it just wasn’t enough. Sure I snuck in some me-time on the grocery trip, but I am convinced I would have had a much better MTO had I just gone to the coffee shop, spent $5 on myself and curled up with a good book for an hour or two.
All this to say that no matter how long I’ve been at trying to master the MTO, old habits still prevail, and our guidelines, for me at least, are just re-enforced.
Now, we aren’t here to tell you what you find fun or not, relaxing or not, rejuvenating, or not. It’s different for everybody. But what we want to encourage you to do are those things you did before you lost yourself in piles of laundry and mountains of dirty dishes.
Those things you did for yourself when it was just yourself, are the things that will best rejuvenate you.
When you plan your MTO, ask yourself “Is this for the house, the kids, the spouse — or for me?” There should only be one answer to that question. This time is for you. You have the rest of the week to do for them.