Here’s another one of our “Mommy Time-Out Guidelines” we like to suggest:
Set A Timer: Set no less than a half hour aside, more if you can, depending on what you plan to do that day. Schedule it at least a day or more ahead of time so you can not only arrange for the sitter, but be both mentally and emotionally prepared for the “me-time” to follow.
I always know exactly the time I plan to be gone on my MTO. I can’t say it was always like that, though.
In the beginning, I started with half an hour and spent most of that time feeling guilty for being gone that long from my children. I then started to plan my MTO a few days in advanced so that I would be mentally and emotionally ready. It also helped me stay respectful of my babysitter’s time by planning it beforehand. And I especially appreciate the support group we created among family and friends because we each give the other plenty of time.
My MTO now consists of 2 hours minimum. I know that I need at least that time to return renewed and ready to take up the mommy role again.
It might be less for you, or more, but whatever time you can set aside every week, realize that a good part of the time in the beginning is spent unwinding and settling in to your “me-time”. That’s why we suggest a minimum of 30 minutes to really make a difference, with the goal of having longer ones as you get used to your Time-Outs.
We’d love to hear from you! How long are your Mommy Time-Outs? How long does it take before you stop feeling guilty or worrying about your children and start relaxing and getting in to your “me-time”?