I have a very good friend named Sally who become a parent all over again because her son and daughter-in-law could not get their life together. I ran into her while I was grocery shopping and she looked very tired and overwhelmed. She caught me up on what had happened in the last year of her life. Sally said her grandson came to live with her when he was two weeks old. She told me she felt she was not prepared to take on the responsibility but she also knew this was the right thing to do.
She admitted to me that she had forgotten how much work it was taking care of an infant, from changing diapers to feeding at all hours of the night. I asked her who was helping her or at least giving her a break once in a while? She said she has nobody, it is only her.
I offered my services and told her I had two daughters that would be great company for her grandson. She could drop off the baby for 6 hours while she went and had a Time-Out for herself. She was in tears, “You would do that for me?” Absolutely, I told her, anything I can do to help.
Sally said there was only one problem – she had no idea what to do with herself for 6 hours. I can help with that, too, I told her. I then called my friend, Cindy, who is a masseuse and asked if she were willing to give a free message to a friend that was in desperate need. Cindy readily agreed and plans were made.
When she came to pick up her grandson later that day, Sally was so encouraged that now she is taking her MTO’s on a weekly basis. She saw the importance of it and how good it made her feel to take care of herself and in doing so she could be a better parent. Mommy Time-Out in action!
What friend or family member do you feel needs an MTO and how can you offer your services?