There’s guilt-free ice cream, guilt-free desserts, even guilt-free McDonald’s french fries (okay, maybe not that last one, but a woman can dream!), but is there such a thing as a guilt-free mom?
Always second-guessing a discipline choice, a school, or the amount of TV watched. When the child is away, there’s guilt he or she isn’t home. When the child is at home, there’s guilt he or she isn’t somewhere else doing something more interesting.
Add to all this guilt the suggestion that you, mom, should take a Time-Out away from your kids and do something just for you. Is the guilt so overwhelming that the room is spinning as you read this? Well, hang on to your seat and read on!
Imagine the guilt when you yell at your child because he or she just climbed on your last nerve. Or the guilt when you go to bed tonight, rethinking your day and realize that you didn’t give your undivided attention to your child who was trying to share with you something so very important to him or her, simply because you were mentally exhausted and thinking about your grocery list or the dirty dishes in the sink.
Now compare that level of guilt to the guilt of taking a minimum of thirty minutes (hopefully longer) to do something for yourself that does NOT involve errands of ANY kind, while your child is having fun on a play date, having quality time with dad/grandma/family, or sound asleep in bed.
When you return from your Time-Out, you are more likely to give that focused attention, respond more calmly, even play longer with your child than if you didn’t.
I’m here to tell you that you can’t escape the guilt, but you can mitigate it.
So, which is the lesser of the two guilts for you?