I didn’t take my Mommy Time-Out last week. Coming from someone whose life is being spent advocating other moms to be sure to take regular, weekly MTOs, some would call me a hypocrite. I’ll just call myself human and leave it at that.
Sometimes life has other plans, and so do the people around you that you depend on to watch your kids so you can take a good MTO. That’s what happened to me last week. My husband had a project at work that took more of his time than usual, my mother was out of state, and my friends were all busy planning their children’s birthday parties, fighting colds and fevers, or all of the above.
As for me, quite frankly, I forgot. The week literally got away from me. One day I wake up and it’s Monday, and before I know it, it’s the end of the week and I’m writing this article confessing to my MTO miss. It seemed every second of every day last week was filled with something pressing: deadlines, interviews, Girl Scout meeting, classes for my two youngest…
These aren’t excuses, just a reality all us moms live through. Sometimes we just can’t make it happen.
However, something amazing happened last week as well. I wasn’t stressed. I look back and I can’t think of a single time that I went ballistic on my kids, my husband or anyone else. I used to, when I didn’t get my regular MTOs, but last week that didn’t happen. Last week, if I didn’t know any better, I’d say I had my MTO after all.
After some thought, I figured it all out. It was all my regular MTOs up to that point. It was like I had built up a reserve of patience, calm and balance every week prior when I did have a Mommy Time-Out.
My plan is to be back on track next week. My mom is back in town and jonesin’ to see her grandchildren and I intend to take full advantage of that fact! Everyone wins, because my girls have missed their Oma, she needs her fix, and I need my MTO.
I know that in the future, if I miss an MTO once in a while, I will be okay, as long as I have as many consistent MTOs in between. It’s empowering to see the Mommy Time-Out concept at work and working.
From personal experience I can tell you that regular MTOs really do work – in so many ways. So make a commitment to yourself to make sure they happen often and regularly, and see the benefits in your life!