Renew Your Body

Changing old habits can lead to a healthier you

Changing old habits can lead to a healthier you

Our bodies carry us through this life we have been given.  If our body is not working well, our lives in general are negatively affected.  We all have heard “you are what you eat” and I am here to tell you it is  absolutely true.  I was married for 13 years and the last 5 years of my marriage, not realizing how depressed and unhappy I was, gained a lot of weight, eating to cover up my depression.  I am 5’2 and I weighed 140 pounds.  If you ask any health professional, that is slightly obese.

I did not feel good carrying this extra weight and was tired a lot of the time.  My knees were starting to bother me and my children would say that my stomach was their pillow. Carrying all that extra weight placed me in a category of heart attack, stroke and other health issues, and I did not want to be in that category any longer!  Not to mention the fact that I want to be there to see my children get married someday and be able to meet my grandchildren. To be able to do this I needed to replace my old habits of eating with new ones.  So I finally made a conscious decision, joined Weight Watchers, and committed my weekly MTO to attend Weight Watchers’ weekly meeting.

I loved going there and learning about proper portions, not eating my children’s leftovers, and better choices in food.  In the process I made many new friends, learned self-discipline,  and was continually supported by the others there.  Every time I lost a little weight I was encouraged to continue.  I reached my goal weight in 3 months by losing 25 pounds!  At the end of it, I promised myself I would be in the best shape of my life in my 40’s.

Taking care of my body has allowed me to see that I am important and my children see me making healthy choices for myself as well as for them.  My friends and family were so encouraging and saw all the weight I had lost that I inspired them to join Weight Watchers.  So much good came out of me taking a weekly Mommy Time-Out committed solely to better my physical health.

If you are carrying extra weight and would like to lose some of it, do you have a plan? Have you thought of using your Mommy Time-Out as a time to work out with a friend, attend a weight loss class or start to build a regular exercise regime for yourself?  What challenges do you face in pursuing these goals?

Don’t Believe the Hype!

I was talking with a mother-friend the other day who told me her ideal MTO was being able to sit down and go through her coupons to make her grocery list uninterrupted. I smiled understandingly, and wanted to quote Public Enemy to her, “Don’t Believe The Hype!”

Instead, what I did tell her is that, as mothers, we often confuse doing something uninterrupted for the family or home as a great MTO opportunity.  But it’s not.  What we here at Mommy Time-Out want to encourage mothers to do is something for themselves and NOT for the household, the spouse, the children, or even the dog.

A look of realization and understanding washed over her and she seemed to see MTO’s in a different light.

As a result, Feli and I realized that a better explanation of each of our Mommy Time-Out Guidelines that we posted a few weeks ago might be helpful, so starting next week that’s what we are going to do!

And the first one we will tackle? In short:

You’re On Restriction   NO WORK! Or else it doesn’t count and your Time-Out has to start all over again!

So please join in on the discussion and let us know your thoughts!

Fight The Good Fight

I celebrated my birthday in August and was given two gift certificates, one for an hour massage and facial and the other for a pedicure.  And I almost didn’t use them!  You see, I was saving them for an emergency MTO, and last week I decided to use my massage & facial certificates at Lola’s Signature Touch.  But everything in me was tempted to cancel on her!

Weird, but true.  I didn’t have to spend the money – they were gifts.  I obviously had the time because I made the appointment, and the kids were taken care of – a playdate with friends.  So what was my problem??  I started to think of the loads of laundry I had to do, the groceries I needed to buy, the time away from my girls…But I stood firm, grabbed my keys, got in my car and just headed to Lola’s. And wow am I glad I did!

She first started with the massage – it was so awesome!  Lola worked out every knot I had in my back.  An hour turned into 2 hours.  She gave me extra time without charging me extra, saying my body really needed it.  Lola is also a mother and knows how the hustle and bustle mothers go through on a daily basis to run the home can stress the body.  I am glad I had Lola to take my MTO with, when I was falling apart and had nothing else to give. I left feeling great and feeling beautiful.  My soul and physical appearance were renewed once again.

More than anything, I am glad I just literally forced myself to go.  I had to ignore those negative, nagging thoughts and remind myself that more than clean clothes and cookies, my girls needed their mother centered and relaxed.  Taking care of me first better equips me to take better care of them.

Thanks Lola!

Wine Time not Whine Time

Here’s a fun idea for a refreshing MTO. I try and have a glass of wine with my sister, Arcie, and her neighbor Amy at least twice a month. It’s so refreshing to enjoy hors d’oeuvres and a glass of red wine. We enjoy our time without the kids and are able to get into deep discussions about world affairs, and best of all, we are not interrupted!  The best part of our Mommy Time-Out is being able to talk about what’s going on in our lives and the challenges we are having that week. It is so nice to have these types of relationships. Everything we share stays between us, and that is comforting.

What’s your favorite thing to do on your MTO? Or, if you haven’t had one in a while, what’s the thing you want to do most?

10 Guidelines To A Successful Mommy Time-Out

It’s challenging enough allowing ourselves to take a Mommy Time-Out, so by creating a new way of thinking and living, a new habit if you will, taking that time for yourself will get easier every time.

To that end, we here at Mommy Time-Out believe that in order to have a successful (i.e. one that actually happens!) Mommy Time-Out, there are a few things you’ll want to do.

Feli had the great idea of thinking about the guidelines we follow when we send our children on a time-out, and apply it to ourselves.  This is what she came up with:

Play Well With Others  Create a support group with friends and/or family that you trust.  If they have children, trade babysitting times.  If they don’t, watch their pets or their house when they go out of town.  At the very least, have a reliable babysitter listed among your contacts that you can call when you need that Time-Out.

Justify Your Actions  Keep reminding yourself that you have earned this Time-Out.  Enjoy every minute – you so deserve it!

Remove Yourself  Let your sitter know you cannot be disturbed during this time, unless it is an absolute emergency.

Set A Timer  Set no less than a half hour aside, more if you can, depending on what you plan to do that day.  Schedule it at least a day or more ahead of time so you can not only arrange for the sitter, but be both mentally and emotionally prepared for the “me-time” to follow.

Think About Why You’re There  It’s as much for your family as it is for you.  Take care of yourself so you have the physical, emotional and mental strength to take care of them.

STAY There!  Don’t cheat yourself.  You have already set a specific amount of time aside for yourself, so stick with it.

Make The Best Of It  Block everything and everyone out of your mind except the activity you have planned – and savor every moment!

You’re On Restriction  You are not allowed to fold laundry, clean the kitchen, go grocery shopping, go to doctor appointments, or run any errands in general – they do not count as your Mommy Time-Out! NO WORK! Or else it doesn’t count and your time-out has to start all over again!

Be Consistent  Take a Time-Out one to two times a week.  They don’t all have to be two hours long.  A movie on Sunday can easily be followed by a half hour candle lit bubble bath on Wednesday.

Don’t Expect Miracles  Like anything worthwhile, it’s a process.  Make it a part of your lifestyle instead of an “extra” thing you do for yourself.  The rewards may take time or they may be immediate – but either way, they will happen.

 

If you follow these guidelines, we believe your Mommy Time-Out will be optimized, which will return you to your family feeling renewed, focused, calm and ready to take on the next challenge.  Best of all, you will have more of yourself to give.

What do you do to make sure you have a successful Time-Out? Or, what issues do you run in to that need to be taken care of so nothing stands in your way of enjoying your time to yourself?